The Dragon Keeper "Controversial?" Hobb and sexuality. *Major Spoilers up to RWC!

[Nuytsia]

Anyhoo, I am still a little unclear on the attitude toward homosexuality in Bingtown in particular now.
In DH why is Sedric SO thick about realising Carson (and Davvie) are gay?....................blah blah .................
Secondly, why is Alise so thick in realising Hest and Sedric are lovers?

Heh I'm not only following my own post but I'm quoting another of my own posts! Is this the first sign of madness?
Anyhoo, further to the post above, I was wondering are attitudes actually different in the six duchies, or are we to put this down to just seeing through Fitz's very skewed eyes .... eg in Tawny Man it appears that every second stranger Fitz bumps into assumes something's going on between him and Lord Golden.... based on .... Tom Badgerlock wearing somewhat tight fitting clothes??? (or something like that!!!).
I see that as quite a contrast to the general cluelessness of Sedric and Alise. Although to be fair, others in Dragon Haven seem to have fairly efficient gaydar.